Chapter+6

= Chapter 6: Relationships: Mindsets in Love (or Not) =


 * 1) ===Do you get stuck in a rejection—do you feel branded by it, do you ruminate about it and harbor feelings of revenge? Now think of an especially painful rejection. What could you take from it that is useful and constructive for your current or future relationships?===
 * 2) ===Have you closed yourself off to certain relationships because you expect perfection—total alignment in every way? This is a dream, and a bad one at that. Think about the people you know who would be wonderful additions to your life in spite of their imperfections?===
 * 3) ===Imagine a scene between partners, one with a growth mindset and one with a fixed mindset. The growth mindset partner has a complaint. What does s/he say? What does the mate hear? How can this be resolved? Can you take criticism from others? Or do you make all kinds of excuses for why it’s not your fault? What do you think criticism means about you? How could you handle it better in the future?===
 * 4) ===Do you expect your partner to read your mind? Are there times you’ve gotten annoyed with your partner because s/he doesn’t understand what you need or want? How could you explain more fully so that you’re both on the same page? What assumptions have you made about your partner—about roles, responsibilities, expectations–but never discussed them with him or her? Could this be causing friction between you?===
 * 5) ===Do you know couples who seemed perfectly matched but then, to your surprise, broke up? Can you analyze it from a mindset perspective: Did they have trouble communicating about problems, growing from disagreements, or interpreting each other accurately?===